Mohr(1999): “[e]xposure to domestic violence can include watching or hearing the violent events, direct involvement (for example, trying to intervene or calling the police), or experiencing the aftermath (for example, seeing bruises or observing maternal depression)” (Fantuzzo & Mohr, 22)....
This study not only impacted the actual area it was conducted in, but the way domestic violence offenders were dealt with by police officers across the country....
No… it is a fight or flight mechanism in an argument where you feel compelled to bring in something that has nothing to do with the article at hand, make it egregious, pretend the other one supports it and then argue with yourself, pretending it is the other. That is not an analogy… it is logical fallacy. You consistently use it and constantly back-peddle trying to figure out how to stay away from the topic. Domestic Violence, woman as the aggressor, the unspoken truth. No matter how angry you get, it will not change fact. You can scream, call names, point to mass shootings, Mickey Mouse and any other deflection you have, but it doesn’t change the fact women are just as violent as men in the home… if not more-so based on the research that is currently out there (read the article…albeit you will not be able to accept it). Now they didn’t take into account your hate when they published the research, so maybe you can call in a favor and get all facts that say women are just as violent as men wiped from the world… but you know what? Even if you could push all research under the rug, the reality does not change. You can argue the sky is green until you believe it, but it doesn’t make it any more green. Even if you call me names.
Funny, I don’t blame all women for anything one woman does. I blame her. Weird concept right? Your cognitive ability fluctuates greatly, or maybe you it only appears you understand at times. I guess even a broken clock is right twice a day. The research done is clear. Refute it all you want. If you say the sky is green and then call me names because I say it is blue, it’s on you for ignorance. Facts are on the side of the article. I blame each man who is violent for his violence. I blame each woman who is violent for her violence. And I blame each ignorant online abuser for their own words, you included. You are an abuser who loves to demean and control. You are textbook definition of an abuser.
30-40% of emergency room visits for domestic violence are men. It is not a small number. Rather than pretend they don’t exist and have to justify your way out of facts, embrace the truth and become part of the solution instead ofvcintinuing the problem. If you ignore the facts you cannot find a solution. What you can find is hate and reasons to hate and in the end support hurting men solely based on their gender. I am sincerely happy we have made speaking that way about women intolerable. Society needs people like you to see the absurdity in ignoring the facts.
It is nice to see someone courageous enough to draw attention to this subject. Every time I attempt to bring it up I feel like I am hammered as being insensitive to the plight of women. It is time to address domestic violence truthfully and we may finally make progress toward violence free relationships when we openly discuss the truth of violence against people instead of violence against only women.
In Family Court, an increasingly common tactic is for a woman to tell the judge, “I was afraid he was going to physically (or sexually) abuse me and/or the kids.” Based on that alone a judge will immediately suspend all visitation rights for the father. And the only way he can get that claim expunged from his record is to sue his wife.
Reports show that upwards of 30% to 40% of all Domestic Violence cases are perpetrated by women against men. but, as was stated in this article, that’s a side of the coin that our society has chosen to ignore.
Great article! It would be equally nice if the statement “If we are serious about addressing domestic violence, then we must deal with all of the incarnations of the realities of domestic violence” could be utilized on an honest discussion about racism. However, just like the article speaks to “discussion about Israel’s occupation of Palestine need not devolve into anti-Semitism. Neither does a hard look at real terrorism, perpetrated by entities such as the Islamic State, have to degenerate into Islamophobia”, any Caucasian who wants to have an honest discussion about racism, is always labeled a racist.
I quite agree Victor sexual and domestic violence just doesn’t happen to women and girls when someone isn’t believed it must be terrible for that person. You can’t just blame men for all cases I agree with you.
We divorced within three years of that incident, but about the time of our divorce, our local Police Department put bumper stickers on EVERY SINGLE POLICE CAR that said, “STOP DOMESTIC VIOLENCE” on one line; and underneath it was this line: “Violence Against Women is Wrong”. (Now, I ask you, humbly, WHAT does that bumper sticker imply? Violence against WOMEN is wrong, sure. But violence against MEN is okay?)
Great article, and there is an incredible balance between portraying women as perpetrator and keeping in mind that they are the majority of the victims. I will use this article as a base of one of my blog posts on
a blog on men victims of domestic violence.
I quite agree Alexander my previous comment does verify this issue. I think that male domestic violence in many cases is hidden to a degree from society as it is still a stigma like mental illness. Society needs to address this issue and not think that men aren’t included in the scenario it isn’t just a women’s problem.
I think that domestic violence is more widespread regarding men than society knows about. I have a friend who is in his 60’s now. He was a victim of domestic violence for 20 years. Hi ex-wife beat him regularly. He ended up in hospital on many occasions. At first he dismissed the violent episodes as being her monthly problems but the angry outbursts happened nearly every day some weeks. One day he told me she really got very annoyed and hit him so hard with a frying pan he ended up in hospital with concussion and 25 stitches in his head poor man. When he came out he decided to get out of the relationship as he was afraid she would kill him. I asked him once why did you put up with it for so long I don’t really know he said she had many good qualities and I did love her. But her violent side and controlling nature I could not stand anymore. He remarried and is now very happy with her and he enjoys his life which I am glad about he deserves so happiness after such a bad life before.