At this stage, the invisible bond between the two-mature people in the society and one immature person comes into force. This bond decides the future of child because this bond will have the prolonged impact on the child’s mental development. Thus, parent- teacher relationship should be of mutual trust and not of distrust and careless decisions.
Try to picture, then, the infant who is placed in an institution such as an orphanage instead of getting the full attention of another “mother,” even the “wrong” mother. How does that infant feel? What happens when the child is deprived of the kind of nurturing that any infant needs, which is pretty constant? Then after being in this place with many other children and a lack of sensory stimulation, she is placed in the arms of another mother and whisked, not just to another town or city, but to another country where there is a different culture, different food, different smells, different sounds, and often a different language. What then?
Allen Schwartz, PH.D., states that he knows of “many cases where children are raised in an atmosphere of dark secrecy about both the matriarchal and patriarchal parts of their families....
“Good communication helps keep a family running smoothly and prevents misunderstandings from escalating into conflict or from being buried unresolved.” (Feiden, 68) There are many ways and times to practice and teach good communication to children.
After divorce, it is still the case that most youthlive with their mothers, often for at least a period in a single-parent household, Moreover, because of unwed pregnancies or paternaldeath, almost one-fourth of all American families are headed by a single female . These women must support themselves and theirchildren and thus, in such contexts, maternal employment is virtually a necessity.
If adolescents didn’t want to be like adults, it was because they wanted to be like other adolescents. Children were identifying with and learning from other children, and Harris realized that once you granted that fact all the conventional wisdom about parents and family and child-rearing started to unravel. Why, for example, do the children of recent immigrants almost never retain the accents of their parents? How is it that the children of deaf parents manage to learn how to speak as well as children whose parents speak to them from the day they were born? The answer has always been that language is a skill acquired laterally–that what children pick up from other children is at least as important as what they pick up at home. Harris was asking whether this was true more generally: what if children also learn the things that make them who they are–that shape their characters and personalities–from their peer group? This would mean that, in some key sense, parents don’t much matter–that what’s important is not what children learn inside the home but what they learn outside the home.
But Kurtz doesn’t believe Baer, and why would he? The spin fantasy offers a far more satisfying explanation for the world around us. Spin suggests a drama, a script to decode, a game played at the highest of levels. Spinning is the art of telling a story, even when there is no story to tell, and this is irresistible (particularly to journalists, who make a living by telling stories even when there is no story to tell). In truth, the world of persuasion is a good deal more prosaic. Ideas and candidacies–not to mention albums–are sold by talking plainly and clearly, and the louder and faster the whirring of the spinners becomes, the more effective this clarity and plainspokenness will be. We think we belong to the world of Edward L. Bernays. We don’t. We are all Wundermanians now.
Judith Rich Harris and child development
Accordingly, when the head of a family is an adolescent, the family and thechildren living in it have an elevated probability of experiencing financial anddevelopmental risks. Unfortunately, there continue to be many American families headedby adolescents. Illustrations of the magnitude of this problem among contemporaryadolescents include:
According to the data presented in the 1993 45% of the1.7 million new American families were started in 1990 by the birth of a new baby wereat major risk of experiencing problems such as having inadequate family resources (thatis, of living below the poverty line) or witnessing negative developments for the child(e.g., poor school performance) because of the presence of at least one of three factors:(1) The mother had less than 12 years of schooling; (2) The mother was unmarried to thechild's father; and (3) The mother was a teenager at the time of the birth of her first baby.
However, the positive effect of community programs may not be as readilyachieveable when the parents in a family are themselves adolescents. In such cases, therisks to offspring are increased. "Adolescents as parents" represents the secondscholarly focus we must address in order to understand the contemporary linkage betweenadolescence and parenting. We turn, then, to this focus.
Laws monitoring the care and treatment of children are prohibiting the ability of parents to discipline their children without interference from the government.
According to child development specialist and the founding director of the Center for Children of Incarcerated Parents, Denise Johnston, “there are over 10 million minor children in the United States who have dealt with parental incarceration over the course of time” (91)....